The first time our independent facilitator visited Andrew at home, she asked him "What are your goals?" Dumb question, I thought. He doesn't have goals.
It turns out I was wrong.
Through the facilitation process Andrew has dared to own and express his dream of having a paying job like his brothers. In a few days he will be going with his facilitator to interview for a volunteer position that she found in the community. Andrew is thrilled. at the chance to take this first step.
Just as importantly, our facilitator has helped us initiate a support circle for Andrew. This group of caring people will help him with issues in his life when we, his aging parents, no longer can. The facilitator provides continuity in the group, sometimes for years. We couldn't do it without her.
We still have lots of complicated issues to face for Andrew's future. Independent facilitation is a lifeline for us. People living with disabilities need access to this as a funded service. Don't let them down.